Dealing with fake people

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2024-04-28

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1-They’re fickle friends.

Fake people won’t stick around through thick and thin. When you’re going through a rough patch, these individuals will hang you out to dry instead of being a kind, unconditional friend. Real friends will stay by your side through good and bad times, and won’t stick around only when it’s convenient for them.

For example, if you get into a fight with your partner, a fake person won’t stick around to offer advice.
A fake friend might be nice to your face, but then talk crap about you behind your back.

2-They aren’t consistent.

Inauthentic people find it difficult to focus on just one thing. Instead of being devoted to a single project, fake individuals will jump from idea to idea without putting much effort in. As they spread their schedule thinner and thinner, these people tend to miss important commitments. When called out on these inconsistencies, they’ll come up with excuses or pass the buck to the next person.

A fake person might join a lot of clubs and extra-curricular activities but not put effort into any of them.
They might also commit to too many projects at work, and miss lots of deadlines in the process.
A fake friend might agree to hang out with you, and then cancel plans last minute.

3- They won’t give a real apology.

An insincere apology often makes you feel worse, not better. A fake person might try to minimize their actions or pass the blame instead of taking responsibility themselves. They might even imply that they’ve already apologized, or look for ways to skirt around the consequences of their actions.

For instance, they could say “I was just trying to help” or “I’m sorry, but I think you’re overreacting.”
They might say something sarcastic or cynical instead of offering a real apology.

4- They can’t handle criticism.

Fake people tend to get offended by constructive feedback. Think about times when a friend, co-worker, or acquaintance was given feedback. Did they take the comments in stride, or did they make a big fuss? In many cases, fake people can’t handle being told that they did something wrong.

For example, if a co-worker makes a mistake in their project, they might deny doing anything wrong.
If you critique a friend’s artwork, they might say something like “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”

5- They’re scared of failure.

Genuine people can accept the possibility of failure. These individuals use their failures as a springboard for future improvement; a fake person usually gives up once something goes wrong. Unfortunately, fake people aren’t so accepting of their faults, and feel so nervous about the possibility of failure that they never try anything new.

A fake person might sign up for low-level classes instead of taking more challenging courses.
A genuine person will look for opportunities to advance their career, while a fake person might be content staying where they are.