In low-pressure situations, a friendly person is calm, kind, and cooperative, tending to communicate with others with the least possible tension in their relationship with them. If the pressure pushes some to shout insults, and others to control their behavior severely, the desire of those with friendly behavior to avoid conflict and please others becomes more apparent, and we find this person exaggerating in showing his cooperation and trying to reduce tension in his relationship with them.

When a friendly person resorts to the alternative style, it is often difficult to know that, but when the expressive person switches to the alternative style, the whole world knows about it, and when a practical person is under extreme pressure, it does not take us long to feel his exaggerated means of tyranny in his opinion, but the friendly person slips without anyone noticing him into the alternative style, and you see him continue to smile and agree with others as always, and even say (of course, this is good).

While it may seem like nothing has changed when a friendly person switches to the alternative style, your first clue to this is often your instinctive feeling that something is wrong, but you can’t pinpoint why. When you observe the person more carefully, you’ll notice that despite hearing words of agreement, their body language and posture are mechanical, unenthusiastic, and uncommitted. If the friendly person does talk about their frustration, it’s only a hint.

In defense of their alternative style, some friendly people say, “What could possibly go wrong with being nice when I’m under pressure? Instead of making a fuss or being too authoritarian, we friendly people try to stay calm.” Others see all alternative styles, including their own, as stressful to others, and they feel remorse because their alternative behavior was difficult for others to deal with.

Expressive people - who prefer to express what is in one's heart - hate it when one feels the need to behave one way and behave another. The expressive person believes that: "If you have a problem, bring it up in public or discuss it or shout it out to others, and that way you can get over this problem, but don't act as if everything is fine when it is not." Practicals do not have much patience for the "peace at any price" behavior. Analysts can understand the desire to avoid conflict, but they do not like the way friendly people do this when they switch to the alternative style. These analysts do not like it when someone says something they do not believe in, and this is what analysts believe friendly people do when they are in the alternative style. Alternative behavior is essentially violent behavior, but the alternative behavior of friendly people appears flexible, but in reality it is a violent style like any other alternative behavior to other styles, but. You may particularly sense the friendly person’s discomfort, and may want to discuss whether you have done something to provoke this response. Although it is clear that something is wrong, when the friendly person switches to the alternative style, they generally say that everything is fine, and insist that there is no need to talk about the stress affecting the relationship. In their calm manner, the friendly person is as tough and strict as any other style.

The friendly person’s desire to support what others are doing is due to their desire to avoid conflict rather than their commitment to what has been agreed. Although the friendly person is genuinely and sincerely supportive of others under normal circumstances, when under pressure, they will acquiesce without being genuinely cooperative. They think they will agree but may not carry out what they have agreed. In fact, the anger that the friendly person feels without expressing it directly may occasionally appear in simple forms of sabotage.

It takes the friendly person longer to switch to the alternative style than it would take the more assertive styles. Once he has switched to the alternative mode, the friendly person tends to remain in this state for a long time. Although he is slow to get angry, he is also slow to forget and forgive. For the friendly person, there is no easy forgiveness, as Dryden warned: “Beware the wrath of the gentle man.”